How to Deal With Self-Critique

We all do have it: that voice inside our head, telling us that we are too fat, too tall, not pretty enough, too boring, not good enough in our job/hobby/sport etc. I'm sure you can add anyone your own voice is telling you. This is the part in us we call the self-critique or inner critique.

Do you need it?

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Ask yourself: if you had a friend who would talk to you like your inner critique does, day in day out, would you keep them as your friend? Hopefully your talk is 'no'.

Once you have come to this decision it is time to sack this friend and look for new ones. Now ask yourself: what would you like your inner voice to say instead? Maybe something like: 'I'm studying to love myself a tiny bit each day' or 'I'm a gorgeous human being, no matter what' or maybe even find specific parts that you truly like about yourself and tell yourself: 'I love my hands.'

Retraining your neurology

At the beginning your old friend might say: 'Come-on, you don't believe this crap!' Well, the truth is that for most of your adult life you have been practicing listening and believing to the old stuff. It's time to start listening and believing the truth that you would want to believe in and not the stuff that you have unconsciously been imprinted with and have silently accepted. In order to create a new conditioning you need time, luckily not as long as it took the first time. This time nearby you have got a very needful resource on your side: your awareness. Use it to spot your opinion patterns and make them fit with who you want to come to be rather than who you were in the past.

Influences

If you look nearby you will consideration that our society is fed with news that nurtures the old voice of the inner critique. Magazines are full of stars that are too fat, too thin, they show us how terrible they look when the paparazzi took the pictures, which is usually when they are just living their lives and not performing or acting. Even the clothes industry supports the 'you have to be and look a definite way to be cool, to fit in...' slogan - that's how they sell you new clothes every season, otherwise you would just be happy to wear the same things until they are worn out.

Choose your influence

Just like you select a new friend you want to be mindful in choosing your level of involvement with the news, with fashion or other women's magazines. The same examine applies: What do you want to expose yourself to? What of that news is precisely worthwhile and needful to know and which ones are just depressing and unnecessary?

Is it time to start now? Already by reading this article you have proven to yourself that it is. Now.

How to Deal With Self-Critique